Tuesday, December 9, 2008

The Love Bug

It's amazing what you can learn in one semester of college about love and life. You meet people and date people (woops, I mean "hang out" with people) and start realizing what you really want in life. Why is it that life is so confusing? Why is it that people in general are confusing?

I know my problem is that I over analyze everything. I just don't understand why people can't be honest...especially in relationships. I have a friend who is really into this guy who is gorgeous, friendly, and INTERESTED back in her. Problem is, they haven't been completely open and honest about their feelings for each other.

Flirting is fun, but after 3 months of it, it's time to make a move already. Maybe they're both afraid of losing the friendship or taking the risk that things might not work out, but what if it did work out? I guess you could say that the love bug gives us opportunities. The question is though, will we act on it?

By the way, what happened to the good old days when guys actually asked a girl out on a date and planned it ahead of time? Classy guys are hard to find these days. If you are lucky enough to be married to a classy guy, then I envy you because there are far and few inbetween like that.

Remember in old black and white movies when the guy goes and asks the father's permission to take out his daughter. Guys today should be thankful. They only have to take the risk of getting rejected by the girl. Imagine having to worry about getting rejected by her father! LOL

On the other hand, there is always that annoying situation where the love bug only strikes you. Time and time again I've seen it happen to myself and my friends.

I started playing tennis with this guy at the beginning of the semester, and I instantly was drawn to his personality. When you click, you click. As our friendship and flirting progressed, I thought that something could potentially come out of this. You always try to look at the dating glass half full...even if the situation is really half empty.

Eventually, I realized that I was in denial and that if he really was interested in me, he would have made more of an effort to spend time with me. I guess playing tennis together doesn't constitute a potential relationship. It just constitutes playing tennis...unfortunately.

So when does the love bug bite two people at the same time exactly? I'm thinking that it's not really a LOVE BUG, but instead a quality deductor. It helps you realize what you do and do not want in a potential mate. Then, when you meet the right person, you'll know.

Until then, I guess my friends and I will just have to heal our bug bites with chocolate, bubble baths, and some Frank Sinatra.


Stephen said...

Instead of complaining about guys, go ask who ever you like out. You are only risking rejection. Plan something out and do it.

The Crash Test Dummy said...

Hey girl! Loved this post! So true. And so cute(ly written). You must be an English major.

I'm going to promote you in a few days so get ready for some traffic.

Or do you want me to wait until finals are over.

Oh, and don't listen to Stephen's advice. Feel free to complain about guys all you want. ;) (He's my brother).

And HEY, no fair, you never comment on my blog anymore Stephen.

Stephen said...

The spirit of my comment didn't come through. Sorry. I just want you to take control of your own destiny instead of waiting for someone to move. empowerment.

Paradise and Palm Trees said...

I actually agree with Stephen. Hahaha now that I look back at the post...I see a little bit of irritation lol. Luckily, I've learned from my experiences and have been empowered! Mahalo for the advice :)